Back when I cooked at Christo’s Italian Restaurant in Albemarle, I was the only white guy in the kitchen. I was affectionately referred to as “Felipe the Cracker” by the other guys. There were two Greeks, one Frenchman and one guy from Mexico (who later bought my electric guitar). Good times.
The previous story is irrelevant, except for the fact that I titled this post Felipe the Target which is one word different from Felipe the Cracker, and I felt you needed a little background.
I felt like a target after getting home from the beach a week ago. Umpteen letters from Lawyers in the area we had the accident beat us home, offering legal services and genuine help and concern. It is a no brainer that they don’t give a rip about me, they just see an opportunity to make money. They see fresh meet. I felt like vultures scooping in on me after tripping up in the desert.
Sometimes Christians come off this very same way: disingenuous, impersonal, unconcerned about the person, and convert-driven. Believe it or not, people outside of Christianity (“non-believers,” “outsiders,” etc-whatever title you want to give) do not have a very good opinion of Christians. In fact, based on the research from “unChristian,” a book from the Barna Research Group I’ve been reading, 49% of young outsiders ages 16-29 have a bad impression of Evangelicals. 48% have a neutral opinion and only 3% have a good opinion.
The book goes on to dissect the 6 major reasons they think this about us, one of which is a convert-driven mentality. They feel Christians don’t really care about them, don’t view them as people, and are only concerned about whether or not they become a Christian. The research shows only 1/3 of the people in this age range believe Christians really care about them. Does that trouble anybody else like it does me?
The solution? We have to make a change in the way we relate to other people. Christians have to stop bypassing people who aren’t Christians, and start loving on them as Christ did. We have to start building genuine relationships with people. Through these relationships people will see the love of Christ in us and might actually want a part of it because we genuinely care for them and they see that! Why should anyone trust the Jesus you believe in if they don’t know anything about Him or you!?
Let’s just take it all the way down to the Golden Rule: Treat other people like you want them to be treated. Do you want outsiders to the faith to treat you like a real person? Would you like to feel like a target when they are around, feeling like they have some great big agenda for knowing you? Would you like them to dissociate with you when they find out they can’t “convert” you away from Jesus?
It works the same both ways. We have the prime example in Jesus. He just loved people, regardless of their history, their present situation, the baggage, their views, their whatever. He never swooped down for a convert-kill. He transformed lives by being genuine and through His love. I think it is safe for me to speak on His behalf and say “Go and do the same.”